In the first blog post of this series, I asked whether you’re working too hard and now I want to look at what it means to be resilient.
When things go wrong in my life, it generally doesn’t take me a long time to get back to normal.
… is adapted from a question on resilience posed by the University of Cambridge Well-being Institute and provides us with a really helpful definition of resilience in terms of bounce-back-ability.
Resilience isn’t about having a rock-like quality to cope with whatever pressure comes your way without showing any sign of weakness. It is the ability to bounce back quickly.
There’s a common illustration of resilience which compares a tennis ball with a table tennis ball.
‘Permanently dented’ might sound a bit extreme but it isn’t uncommon and I’ve worked with plenty of clients who’ve needed some support to bounce back after difficult times and prolonged periods of pressure. If you’ll forgive a brief rant, I’m always incredibly disappointed that as organisations and leaders, we let people become dented. This doesn’t happen overnight and often plays out slowly over a period of time. It isn’t a sudden accident, but a series of poor choices and missed opportunities to make things different. If we believe that ‘people are our greatest asset’ then we can’t stand by and watch people become dented. That said, we each need to take responsibility for our own resilience, and more of that in the next blog post.
For now, I want to finish by listing some of the early warning signs that we might look out for in ourselves and others. This isn’t intended as a checklist diagnosis, but to provide some things to watch out for:
- Feeling tired all the time
- Having constant colds
- Dropping healthy habits like exercise, good diet, and getting plenty of sleep and replacing them with unhealthy habits (like eating junk food and drinking too much coffee and/or alcohol)
- Becoming less sociable and disengaging from those around you
- Feeling out of control and compromising on your own values to please others
- Feeling frustrated and that you’re never doing enough
- Struggling to concentrate
- Grumpier than normal
- A general feeling of negativity and gloominess
In the next blog post in this series, I’ll look at some ways to be more resilient. In the meantime, my challenge to you is to pay more attention to resilience and notice some things. How are you doing; Absolutely fine? A bit compressed but in good shape to bounce back? On the way to being dented? And what about people around you; how are they doing?
This post is part 2 of a series on Personal Resilience. Other posts are: